Maybe You Deserve Better

So she fell in love and gave all her heart to it. It never felt so good. At last, there's someone to talk to, someone to lean on, someone to cry on his shoulders. For long she had looked forward to it, imagined the beauty and excitement of it, and passionately prayed for it. Now it seems the long-awaited love is right before her.

But the red flags. "I know, but who cares about red flags". But he 'cheats' on you. "It's not even that bad, every man cheats". What about his anger problems and the way he talks to you and destroys things in anger. "I strongly believe he will change." Hmm, but he is also not interested in things pertaining to faith. 'Someone will not eat faith please and he does not stop me from doing what I want'. Sister with the way he reacts to you in anger, he is likely to beat you up in the future. 'Please please, nobody is perfect'.

So everything was rationalized. She couldn't stand the thought of losing him. After all, 'men are scarce'. So she babysits him, carrying his material and spiritual burden. Ignore all her rights, dignity, and moral principles. She lies to those who seem to ask questions to cover the red flags and ensure everyone sees him as the angel she wishes he is. 'After all, if it is not God's will, God will not have allowed both of them to meet.' she concludes.

And when she's asked what exactly she gets from this so-called relationship that is draining her, she can't really say. Just the expectation of happiness ever after, the avoidance of breakup pain, the desire to belong, and the pride of also having a man in her life. And probably, the little secrets that he knows. Yea, she wants to fight for her man and not allow any bitch to take him away from her.

Maybe, the fight is not worth it. Maybe he may never change. Maybe there's more to life than so-called relationships and marriage. Maybe it's better to be relevant than to be accepted. Maybe your faith, moral stand, convictions, and godliness is too valuable to be sacrificed. Maybe there's a beautiful side of love that's worth waiting for. Maybe you deserve to be loved, to be desired, to be cherished. Maybe you deserve better. Maybe!